send a date invite that’s actually kind of cool
Ask them out without texting “wanna do something?”
dontsay.no lets you create a personal, aesthetic page where your crush can choose what you’ll do on your next date. You send one link — we handle the rest.
See how it works
When you’re done, you just send one link. A short video is coming soon — someone opens it, smiles, and picks a date.
The video is in production — but you can already test the flow by creating your own date page.
choose your own date
Hi Jane ✨
Here’s roughly how the page will look for the person you send the link to.
Wine & conversation
Tap to choose
Fire & stargazing
Tap to choose
Game night
Tap to choose
As easy as 1-2-3
A calm, private way to ask someone out — with clear options and no awkward back-and-forth.
Create a date page
Type their name, keep our suggestions or add your own options.
Get a personal link
We generate a unique URL you can share on Snap, Insta, Messenger — anywhere.
They choose — you know the answer
They open the page, pick their favorite date — and you’ve got both the answer and the plan.
Why this works
Less awkward
The page does the asking for you, so you don’t have to find the perfect words.
Clear choices
Giving options makes it easier to say yes — and removes guesswork.
Low pressure
They can respond privately, in their own time.
Not a dating app
No profiles, no swiping, no public exposure — just a private invite.
FAQ
Is dontsay.no a dating app?
No. dontsay.no doesn’t have public profiles, matching, or browsing other users.
Do I need an account?
You can try the flow without signing in, but you need an account to save pages and see responses.
Is my invite public?
No. Only people with the link can see your invite.
Can I suggest a time too?
Yes. You can suggest one or two times, or let them choose another day.
What happens after they answer?
You’ll see the response in your dashboard and can follow up directly.
Testimonials
What people say
A few thoughts from people who tried dontsay.no to ask someone out in a calmer way.
“This made it way easier to ask her out. No awkward message, just one link.”
“I liked that it didn’t feel pushy. I could answer when I wanted.”
“It’s not a dating app, which is exactly why it works.”
Names and details are anonymized to protect privacy.